<strong>Question</strong>: I am not attracted to men, but I love to eat another man’s sperm from my wife’s pussy(clean up).....but find the idea of sucking her lovers cock a turn on....and I would be willing to suck cock if she asked/told me to (and the guy was ok with it). My question is does wanting/desiring to clean her and lover up mean that I'm gay, or at least bi....or does it just mean I'm a freak....LOL I just know how much it turns me on....and wife enjoys me going down on her full of spunk.<p><strong>Answer</strong>: I see some version of this question all the time. It’s not uncommon for cuckolds to be aroused by cleaning a creampie, fluffing another man, or straight up sucking cock and swallowing cum. Typically, the arousal is rooted in the sense of submission or humiliation that these activities generate, not the act itself. Ultimately, I wish all people interested in any kink-related sexual activity would forget about assigning labels to it. What’s the point? If you and your partner (or partners) are enjoying yourselves, then the label you think society would attach to it doesn’t really matter.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Question</strong>: Hi , I’m a cuckold husband, my wife refused my fantasy about her with other men fucking. I’m thinking in divorce and find other women who enjoy cuckold lifestyle, what is your advice?</p><p><strong>Answer</strong>: I wouldn’t recommend divorcing your wife to find someone to cuckold you. The truth is, you’re not going to find many women that enjoy the cuckold lifestyle that aren’t already married. It’s exceedingly rare for a woman to get into it on her own. Most are introduced by a husband or boyfriend. It’s sad that your wife isn’t interested, but divorcing her isn’t the answer.</p><p>There are ways to explore cuckolding even if she’s not willing to sleep with someone else. She can tell you stories of men she slept with before you. She can use a lifelike dildo as you watch. She can make up a dirty fantasy while giving you a handjob. You can share a fantasy while going down on her or using your fingers on her clit to bring about an orgasm. You just have to put your imagination to work.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Question</strong>: I am a male and have been happily married to my wife of 18 years. Before marriage I mentioned my cuckolding fantasy and we played as a fantasy throughout the marriage, even including chastity play. My wife never really expressed any interest to take it further: we just played. I did not push my wife and over time she became open to idea. Anyway, she set up an account on a site (which we both openly read) and was flooded with responses. One response caught her eye which she responded to. He was a smooth, very fit, younger man staying in a 5 star hotel. I dropped my wife at the bar where she met this pleasant man. </p><p>She told him the situation, he told him his situation and he was open to my wife texting me assuring everything was ok. Within two hours she felt comfortable enough to go back to his hotel room for drinks. In no time he was giving my gorgeous wife oral and with a condom on fucking in a myriad of positions. When my wife came home hours later I greeted her with a kiss and we have talked about how hot the whole thing was over many sexual nights together. Overall the scenario was great: stranger (who was a complete gent throughout), hotel sex, discreet, I got cuckolded which was way hotter than I thought it would be and has made our sexual relationship degrees hotter. </p><p>The experience was so positive my wife wants to do again. Here is the issue for which I need your advice. As mentioned we share an account, live in a bustling city and the men expressing interest is based on one requirement. They must be from out of town &amp; staying in a hotel. My wife, despite the massive variety and interest says finding men online too much effort without the eroticism of flirting. (However, in our shared account I rarely see much flirting with any of these potential men.)</p><p>Instead my wife revealed she has been flirting with a single handsome client who lives pretty close and finds the flirting and texts with him really hot. She also said this client invited her to a recent event last weekend and she can see (as long as he knows the rules and I am ok with) a FWB scenario developing cause this makes her feel more sexy and positive. </p><p>My concern is three fold. One. I know who this man is - he is single, been attracted to my wife for ages and recently asked my wife out to an event without any consideration for me or our family which to me screams potential affair. (Unlike the out of town guest who was in lifestyle and open to texting, etc.). </p><p>Two: I thought opening up an online account was a big enough licence to play in but it seems we are adding new territory which I do not think I am entirely comfortable i with is looking to be opened up. </p><p>Three: Within all this angst I am trying to think from my wife's perspective too. Such a situation would be easier as it means no more editing through multiple profiles + she feels safe in his company, and a FWB scenario with a single man without kids who lives in a cool spot to her probably feels really hot. I do get all that. But wasn't our initial scenario open enough. Is it just me or is this new scenario which my wife finds hot a red flag and far greater danger to our marriage? Any opinion would be appreciated. Thanks.</p><p><strong>Answer</strong>: I don’t think you’re wrong to be concerned. A cuckold marriage is doomed to failure if the couple isn’t committed to fully open and honest communication. I’m not saying your marriage is doomed, of course, but I think it’s okay to have some concern and to voice those concerns to your wife.</p><p>Cuckolding really only works if it’s something the couple does. That doesn’t always mean you’re there to watch and it doesn’t mean she shares every text with you, but it’s not going to work if she only shares some of her adventures with you. You’ll end up suspicious and resentful and that’s when everything will blow up.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Question</strong>: Hi there Becca Great site - congrats. Just wonder when Captioned Cuckold Stories 2 will come out. Myself half together with a lady ...maybe we will be a cuckold couple in future ...now doing first steps but not easy for me at all. Best and thx for answer.</p><p><strong>Answer</strong>: I should have the sequel finished this month (July 2018).</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Question</strong>: Hi Becca, I love your blog. I'm an aspiring cuckold, but I'm having trouble finding a cuckoldress. What I've tried so far: FetLife (isn't conducive to searching for a mate), Craigslist/Backpages (now removed), Reddit bdsm/cuckold personals (no luck yet), collarspace (lots of bots and professional-only dommes), swinglifestyle (not many single women on there), okcupid (I haven't matched with more than two people). I read your blog post about finding a mate. Am I missing anything? What do you suggest?</p><p><strong>Answer</strong>: Unfortunately, finding a single woman that’s already into cuckolding is exceptionally difficult. As I mentioned in an earlier answer, it’s rare for a woman to discover an interest in cuckolding on her own. Typically (as was the case with me) she’s introduced to it by her husband or boyfriend. That means most women that are into the lifestyle are already attached.</p><p>That means a fairly small pool of available ladies into cuckolding. My only suggestion would be to search for women that are kink-friendly. Fetlife is a good option for that. Instead of simply searching for a mate, I’d suggest looking for a local fetish-friendly meet up. Go meet people in real life, chat about what turns you on, and you might find someone you can connect with. </p><p><br></p><p><strong>Question</strong>: Hello, I wanted to know if I’m really into cuckolding. I’m 19 and have a girlfriend who has 18, we have been together for 2 years; she say I’m well endowed and that the sex is good, but I still want her to have sex with other guys while I watch. Is not only that, I also want her to watch me have sex with another woman and I want someone to watch me and my girlfriend have sex. Another thing that I would like to add is that I have only been seeing cuckold porn for months. So, am I fantasizing about cuckolding or is this something else?</p><p><strong>Answer</strong>: It sounds like you’d be described as a swinger and/or an exhibitionist. You might also just be young and into exploring everything available to you in the sexual realm, which is perfectly normal.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Question</strong>: Hello, we are a french couple. my wife has a lover and i love that. she loved it too. i'm 42 and she is 36.she is now cheating with him since one year. she has no protection. i'm wrtting you to have a feed back on one point. do you have return of experience of women getting pregnant from their lover? best. Mark</p><p><strong>Answer</strong>: The cuckold pregnancy fantasy is a common one. Lots of guys (and a smaller percentage of women) find the notion hugely arousing. The writing I do on the subject always gets a vigorous response. In many ways it’s the ultimate form of cuckolding. Your wife has rejected your seed in favor of someone else’s. She wants a superior man’s DNA growing inside her. That being said, I think it should remain a fantasy. </p><p><br></p><p><strong>Question</strong>: I am not in a relationship but I'm curious, and interesting in trying the cuckold experience. Are there people like dominatrix who would be willing to help with that?</p><p><strong>Answer</strong>: I don’t have any personal experience with it, but I’m sure you could find a dominatrix with experience in playing out a cuckold fantasy. Since masochism sits at the root of a true cuckold fantasy, a professional that makes men suffer for their pleasure should have no trouble offering the kind of pleasure you seek.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Question</strong>: I discovered my wife cheated on me with a close friend of mine. We had planned dinner with him at our home when I got called away for work. She accidentally left her damp panties in the living room for me to discover after I got home late. I also found a slick wetness in our bed when I joined her already sleeping. They don't know I know. I got angry at first, then curious, and now I am constantly aroused by it. Lately, I have to work to avoid becoming hard when we are all together. Now what?</p><p><strong>Answer</strong>: Tough call. In reality, there was a pretty serious breach of trust in your marriage. On the other hand, that same breach of trust led to some serious arousal for you. I suppose what you do next depends on what you want to do next? You could tell her that you know and that it really turns you on. That might not work for her, of course. You could keep acting like you don’t know anything about it and hope that you find more wet panties, or that you come home when they’re going at it and can spy on them. If she fucked him once, chances are good she’ll do it again.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Question</strong>: Me and my bf really enjoy your stories! Wow, you’re a veery talented writer. To think that you post on tumblr and Fifthy shades turns in millions of dollars... Anyways, I’d like to ask you about beeing mean. I find I start enjoying this more and more, while at the same time I feel bad for doing it. Not mean-mean in a hurting way, but mean as in telling my husband about how much better my lover is etc. Thing is, it was me that introduced this lifestyle, not him. And while he enjoys himself I’m the one pushing boundaries. We talk - a LOT - but I sometimes worry that I’m going to far. I’m very interested in denying him penetration with me. Which, when I pounder on it, is just to be a little mean. I enjoy sex with him and truly love him with all my heart. So why do I want to see that painful look on his face? Sorry, this is more of a rambling then a question. But do you ever question yorself? You seem so well balanced in your thoughts on the subject of cuckolding (on your site and quora.com to name a few).</p><p><strong>Answer</strong>: One of the difficulties of cuckolding (and other forms of kink play, too) is that it brings up all sorts of difficult feelings. While many cuckolds are aroused by a sense of humiliation, it can also be destructive, leading to a variety of issues. The same can be true of the women in cuckolding relationships.</p><p>When my husband and I first got started I questioned myself all the time. Even if you’re just dipping your toes into an alternative lifestyle (not a huge fan of that phrase, but it fits here) you’re going to deal with all kinds of strange feelings. You’re stepping outside the mainstream and going against everything you’ve been taught (at least that’s usually the case). Eventually those questions went away, mostly because I saw the positive effect it had on our marriage.</p><p>At the same time, you’re far from alone in taking a bit of pleasure in that pain on his face. If it turns you on to tell him that your lover is better than he is, that’s perfectly fine. You’re one of millions of women that enjoy that pleasure. Some are genuine sadists and enjoy inflicting a great deal more pain, in fact.</p><p>Ultimately, I cannot tell you why that’s the case. No one really can. It’s exceedingly difficult to study. The same is true of most fetishes, though. Most men couldn’t tell you why they enjoy being cuckolded, and even if they could give you a reason it might not be the real one.</p><p>What’s important is ensuring that you and your husband are happy with the arrangement. If you find pleasure in causing him a bit of emotional pain and he also enjoys it, there’s nothing to worry about. If you feel like it’s eating away at the fabric of your marriage, then you have to make changes.</p><p>I would recommend looking up aftercare as it relates to BDSM relationships. Essentially, after you’ve experienced your sexual pleasure and/or orgasms, you reassure your husband that you love him, care for him, and want only the best for him. You both experience the incredible high of cuckolding and mild humiliation play and then on your way to you reassure each other of your love. It can be as simple as saying “I love you with all my heart.” Something small can set him right again and make a major difference in your relationship.</p><p><br></p><p><strong>Question</strong>: Do you treat your husband the way you talk about cuckolds in your stories?</p><p><strong>Answer</strong>: No. My husband isn’t really into the overtly humiliating aspects of cuckolding. He’s turned on by a more subtle form of play, so that’s what we do.</p>